I’d love to hear: how do you discipline your children? I’d love advice and encouragement from other mother’s as Petka’s little person-hood asserts itself more and more!
Monday, March 11, 2013
Discipline: Questions, not Answers
I’ll happily admit that Yarrow is an easy child, she’s sweet, loving, and kind. She likes to nestle her toys close to her heart..actually, she’s been seen nestling everything from toys to beer bottles to Luba’s unwilling head close to her heart. And those she can’t physically nestle, like the moon, or the statue of St. Patrick in the church, she nestles symbolically ~ reaching for them and hugging her hands close again with her eyes on the object of her love. She helps out eagerly ~ the dog is thrilled to have someone who actually enjoys playing with dog food feeding her, and I’m constantly encouraging Yarrow to “sweep toward the dust pan” and to roll the dough gently.. Apart from a consistent refusal to sleep like a person, she’s just a little love. But she’s also a wretch in her own right at times, and these days we’ve been dealing with a little tendency to hit out with her tiny hands when we displease her (or when she’s especially excited). It’s not idea at all, though the look of absolute horror on her face when one angry hand actually makes contact is adorable. Generally, we sit her down somewhere, tell her firmly that hitting is not nice at all and make her sit, ignored for a while, until she’s calm, when we talk again and make certain, she in some way acknowledges her offense and promising to be kind in the future. Hitting does seem to be diminishing, but I’m wondering, are there better ideas out there?